Why Girls Go For Bad Guys

11/29/2009.

You know, it's not a mystery to me at all why girls go for bad guys. Not a mystery at all.

What some of you will fail to realize is that this is a push question. Girls don't go for bad guys. Girls are *courted* by bad guys.

Whenever I see a group of people, usually in college and high school or at the mall, the girls are part of the group because the guys were the 1st to talk to them. That were the 1st to "break the ice" with them. If you see girls run up to guys and talk to them, it follows that if you go way back, somewhere where they 1st met - it was the guy that was the 1st to introduce themselves to them. You think I'm kidding?

Not only are guys the 1st to break the ice for relationship, but also for friendship.

This also makes evolutionary sense because if you go back to elementary school, where the girls are clustered with the girls and the boys are clustered with the boys, whom will be the 1st to go to the other group? Here's a hint - it ain't the girls.

Or in other words, girls require that guys be the 1st to talk to them in order to start *anything* with them, from friendship to relationship. Even if a girl were the 1st to say something to a guy (usually non-platonic), it will still have to be the guy to take their status further.

I've often seen guys make their 1st move with girls, and then weeks or months later, they are in a group.

I basically figure if I were a hot female, all I have to do is show some cleavage, and the guys will flock to me!

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It does not bother me at all that bad guys go for girls. Because everytime a girl breaks up with a bad guy, she will likely go for a nicer guy. There may be a sad part to this, that this could not be evolutionarily taught, but only from a life-time experience.

The nice guys.

This is actually not about nice guys, but about Christian guys.

There are guys that only talk to me only because I'm a guy. That is, guys that only talk to guys 1st, and not females.

The best examples I can think of are Christian guys, that break the ice with me the 1st day we met by asking for both my e-mail and my number... And I see they are in the business of converting lots and lots of guys only to Christianity, and not females, (unless females are the 1st to talk to them).

And then I see (like on Facebook) that they are just like me - absolutely single. The times I go to their church, I don't even see them ever to be the 1st to talk to girls, at least the girls that show cleavage. And of course, I've heard sometimes the females showing cleavage accusing the nice Christian guys of "not talking to them" enough.

Even in the non-religious society, I've often heard women accusing guys of "not calling them."

Conclusion.

So let's recap. Why are girls with bad guys? If you look at courtship, whom are the pick-up artists that "pick-up" girls and try to break the ice with them? For not just relationships but also friendship? Well, it ain't the Christian guys, and it ain't the shy guys. I can't use the word "nice" guys - it has multiple meanings. It's the bad guys. Or and the more outgoing guys.

So who are the girls that don't go for bad guys? You got it - the girls that choose their boyfriends.

And those girls are the exceptions to this.

The exceptions to this.

There are several exceptions to this, at least in the sense I'm using the word "bad" guys to mean "outgoing" guys. This page does not cover all women, but women at the top of the popularity chain.

A 3rd exception to this is Asian women, particularly Asian women in Asia. I've read an article about the different types of attractions women in China go for compared to women in the U.S.A. That looks and outgoing is less important in China and more for the U.S.A. Basically, if you have a Ph.D in math, you can easily get a wife in China.

A 4th exception to this are girls that are tomboys. That is, girls that aren't made of ice.

Specific exceptions to this.

2 specific exceptions to this, albeit I regret to say, are my Mother and my sister.

To recap, my Mom is Chinese and my Dad is a White college professor, bald with glasses.

For my Dad to workout and weight lift and be masculine, it would be a turn-off for my Mom. My Mom wanted to dominate my Dad and be the leader of the household.

She was strict conservative Chinese. She was not the type of person you'd see with a vibrator. In fact, after my sister was born, she got the 2 children she wanted, so she ended her days of sex with my Dad permanently. Obviously my Dad would be the 1st to pursue and she would deny.

Another specific exception to this is my sister. She's not the type to wear in bikinis or show cleavage. It would be the hardest thing for guys to "get in her pants."