How Do You Get A Girlfriend - Part 2

10/25/2009.

So you know the secret to getting a girlfriend in my previous "How do you get a girlfriend" article. Although I may not have specified it in the .html version of the article. The secret was spontaneity.

Spontaneity is the key to a successful relationship when you don't know someone.

Spontaneity is the most important factor in getting a girlfriend because of 1 fundamental principle, shown in the below examples.

Years ago, I watched a movie where a guy or husband has some accident resulting in a brain injury. The short-term memory was damaged, but not the long-term memory. So when the mother walks in to the hospital bed, he goes "Hey mother." And she is glad he is alive and well.

But when the wife walks in, he does not know who she is. So she walks out and cries.

Well, let me just twist the story a little bit to the other way around. Imagine if your girlfriend ad that problem from a head injury. Then the relationship starts all over again.

Or in other words, 2 people that are spontaneous with each other - it doesn't matter how well they know each other personally or much they know of each other's lives - they still spontaneously click with each other.

Great minds think alike. So a lot of times, a lot of people can agree with me and my ideas, the only thing is whether we know each other or not or exchange life stories and our ideas.

This is why it makes no difference whether someone knows me or not - if they are spontaneous with me, the only difference is that they don't know me.

Spontaneous, in this article, means, "of littlest effort."

Non-spontaneous requires effort. So if you're a guy and you go to a bar or lounge or nightclub and you see a hot female at a table and you have to go and introduce yourself and all about what to say and what not to say - if she and you ain't spontaneous, then this courtship "requires effort."

The harder and harder it is to get a particular girl to be your girlfriend, the more non-spontaneous it is.

Pour salt in water. The water breaks up the ionic bonds, naturally. To do otherwise would be against nature. Trying to fight gravity "requires effort."

Spontaneity is the key to courtship.

Now let's talk about, something else.



10/16/2009.

I observe 2 things:

1.)We live in a society where women will never be the 1st to court men. If you go to a bar or night club and see a female by herself, it's always going to be the men that approach her and court her, rather than the other way around.

The causality behind this: women have much smaller sexual desires than men.

Here's a question to ponder about - should men apologize for their design of increased sexual desire?

2a.)Females don't like creepy guys.

2b.)Females don't like desperate guys.

Whenever a male exposes himself to a female, society considers him to be a creep, wishing he were locked up and all that. But when it happens the other way around, no such causation is observed.

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So how does a relationship work if men have the stronger sexual desire and women do not like creepy guys?

The relationship works when the female can tolerate creepiness from guys.

It would always be creepy when the male approaches the female and courts the female. The more and more a female can tolerate creepiness from males, that is the start for the stronger the relationship.

(And this is not even about religious people.).



10/19/2009.

It's hard to balance being a masculine man and not being perceived as creepy.

It is impossible to randomly walk up to a female you don't know without coming off as creepy or desperate. Really.

You can't think of a way to do it.

The relationship works as soon as when the female forgives the man (or acceptance) of him coming off as creepy.



Which brings us to the fundamental point - So how do you find a spontaneous girl?

10/18/2009.

Here is an example to test for spontaneity (I do not actually recommend it, it also depends on what you look like).

Suppose a hot female was at the beach or swimming pool area sunbathing, the point being in a public place. And she catches a guy some 30 feet or farther photographing her, or taking a photo of her in his camera.

A girl could be of 2 things:

-She takes offense to that.
-She likes it.

I obviously argue that the girl that actually "likes" it is the easiest to accept courtship from males.

If the female gets up and bitches to you about it, she would not be spontaneous. If she gets the lifeguard to go after you or calls 911, she is not spontaneous.

There is a 3rd option of course. It is in between. That she neither dislikes nor likes. I guess this option is more prevalent than girls that actually like it.

The most spontaneous courtship would be the females that take the least offense to being photographed, to the extent that she would actually like it, rather than just be neutral about it.



More ways to find a spontaneous girl.

10/27/2009.

Here are more ways to find a spontaneous girl.

Don'ts and do's.

Scenario: Say you're at a place like the bank or a gym, and there's music playing in the speakers, but you don't know the name of the song or who sung it.

Let's say she knows the name of the song.

Do not:

"What's the name of the song?"
"Name of song is ____" or "____."

Do:

Do you know the name of this song? (Yes/no.)

Then, her 2 possible responses are:

Yes.

Or.

Yes, it is ____ or ____.

Do not:

Do you know the name of the song, and if so, what is the name of the song?

^ Or in other words, you're testing her to see if she is someone that will do the minimum required thing.

When you put the question in the "yes or no" format, she can choose to answer the question as just "yes" or "no." This is testing to see if she will give additional information or not.

Now, let's suppose she does not know the name of the song.

Her 2 possible responses are.

"No."

Or, "No, sorrrrry, I don't."

Or even cases where she'll try to look it up or ask around for you.



More spontaniety explained.

Would I ever court a girl? The answer is yes.

11/3/2009.

There are 2 types of heterosexual girls. They are.

Heterophobic.

And heterophilic.

While there's no point defining them other than know what the root words, mean, I'll describe or say the properties of them.

A heterophobic girl, for example, is someone who.

-Is more comfortable around females than with guys.
-Often has (or and prefers to have) more female friends than guy friends.
-Is more social around females than with guys.
-Prefers having female roommates than guy roommates.
-Can *tolerate* females more than can tolerate guys more.
-Prefers being photographed by females more than by guys.
-Is the 1st to start conversations with females, but never with guys (that is, only talks to guys if they talk to them 1st, but not the case with females).
-Prefers having a female massage therapist than a guy massage therapist.
-And obviously, prefers female gynecologists and breast cancer doctors than male gynecologists and breast cancer doctors.

So that the heterophilic girl, would have the reverse properties, or equal-tolerance properties.

So which of the 2 types of girls do you think I like..?

Some more detailed differences:

Heterophobic: Has the mentality "all guys are pervs," and is affected by that.
Heterophilic: Has the mentality "all guys are pervs," but is not bothered by that.
Heterophilic: Has the mentality "not all guys are creeps." ;)

Other properties:

Heterophobic: does not look at male porn. Would take more offense to, or is more freaked out by.
Heterophilic: does, or is not against.

Heterophilic: is against going to an "all girls" school (for college, high school, and end of middle school).
Whereas a heterophobic wouldn't care.

So you can tell, that, or at least, another property is, the age at which the female developes into a heterosexual is earlier for 1 type than the other.

And by being creeped out easily vs. less creeped out easily, an example of this is, it bothers the heterophobic female that other single guys she knows looks at porn, finds it a turn off, but not a turn off for heterophilic females.

By the way, all of the above apply to bisexual females too.