7 Reasons Why I Will Never Have A Girlfriend

This page is like a conclusion to.

How do you get a girlfriend? Part 1 (October 25, 2008).
How do you get a girlfriend? Part 2 (October 25, 2009).

8 reasons why I don't have any female friends.

And from my /Article/ section.

The Philosophy of Autism.

10/27/2009.

There's actually 7 reasons why I'll *never* have a girlfriend.

1.

Here's a 3 questions for me to ask guys only.

1.If you are never the 1st to pursue sex, to any female, ever, would you be a virgin?

2.If you are never the 1st to pursue a relationship, would you still be single or always have been single?

And lastly.

Friendship:

3.If you are never the 1st to talk to a female, and only talk if females talk to you 1st (except for cases where you do have something relevant to say), would you have any female friends?

If you understand these questions, then you would know why I'm *always* and permanently single.

What's the difference between nice guys and bad guys? Nice guys wait longer. And in some cases, nice guys wait forever.

Well, for #3, there are some exceptions to this, like if you and a girl went to the same elementary, middle, high school, and college together. So, to adjust, for question #3, counting only girls from college and up only (so removing all the girls you met from elementary school, where it didn't matter as much which gender was the 1st to talk to which gender).

What does mean "except for cases where you do have something relevant to say?"

An example of that is: "Hey you dropped something."

A conversation initiater with a female falls into 3 broad categories:

Example 1:
Example 2:
And example 3:

They are.

-Where all the time or almost always the time, it is definitely interpreted as flirting. (99-100%).
-Where sometimes it can be interpreted as flirting and sometimes not, depending on the situation (~50/50).
-Where never it is interpreted as flirting (not 0-1% but 0% of time interpreted as flirting).

The things I say to females are going to be the last 1 - where 0% of the time it can be interpreted as flirting.

Examples of the 1st example are stuff like "Hey baby, you hella fine" ...
Examples of the 2nd include "Scuse me ma'am do you have the time?" "Where the direction to the restroom?"
And then the example to the last 1 was: "Hey you dropped something!"

The variables that determine whether example 2 is considered to be flirting or not often depends on variables like what the female was wearing, how much cleavage she's showing, and that do you really believe a guy in this age does not have his own cell phone to not be able to know or look up the time??

Here's example 3:

There was a day I was walking along the beach. A woman in the opposite direction pasts me as a blue teddy bear from her backpack fell on the ground. She was walking with a guy. I immediately turn around and go "Hey you dropped this!" She didn't turn around immediately, but I stopped and pointed at the blue teddy bear, and when she did turn around she saw I was pointing to it and goes something like "Oh, thanks," and turns around to go back and pick it up and I immediately continue walking.

Does she interpret me as flirting with her or picking her up? Of course not.
Does she interpret me as trying to hit on her? Of course not.
What about if she was showing cleavage? This was at the beach. I don't think she was showing much skin - but of course not.
What about the guy - does he think I was trying to hit on her or cock-block? Of course not.
What if she was wearing a string bikini and thong? Still of course not.

Again, the things I say to females fall into the above situations, at no time does a female ever interpret them as trying to hit on her.

And yes, it is also possible that there are cases where I say things that people can interpret as example 2, where 50/50 I could be hitting on her, depending on all the variables and situation.

Like if I asked a female "Where's the restroom?" or "I need help with this," there's still a good chance I could have figured out how to find the restroom myself but just wanted to talk to her if she were hot.

And so and so forth.

2.Females evolutionarily like confident guys - to make the 1st move.

They want guys to be able to have the balls to walk up to them 1st and look them in the eye and say something uncorny that will lift their feet off.

And if a guy like me never does that, then they will evolutionarily not ever be interested in me or be the 1st to start a conversation with me.

I'll tell you this - a female is more likely to start a casual conversation with me the 1st day we met - rather than weeks after words where she figures out who I am.

So, yes, females like confident guys.

Now! There was something that I said in the 1st "how to get a girlfriend" article (2008 edition rather than 2009 edition) that you may find contradicting.

It said:

"It's actually a common misconception that confidence is a required element when talking or associating with girls. You see, confidence is only needed when you don't have anything to say, don't have anything relevant to say, and or don't know what to say.

And that's because - there's a fine line between being shy, and simply not having anything to say."

And there is no contradiction in that. There is no contradiction in that in the sense that when I say things like "Hey you dropped this!" there is still no confidence necessary. Just a voice loud enough to hear.

Or in other words, females require men be the 1st to say lines 1st in order to break the ice with them, rather than the other way around (if you think about it, this is probably the same thing as 1).

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I read articles where people say stuff like "men are less likely to talk to you if you are in large groups of other females." And I could possibly relate that to if you were at the beach sun bathing.

Well guess what, I am obviously not effected by this when I have my "100% relevant" thing to say to females. My "100% absolutely relevant" thing to say.

So it don't matter whether she's in a large group of girls or in bikinis - no confidence is necessary to say the things that are absolutely relevant and in no way can be interpreted as hitting on her or flirting with her, etc.



So, to recap, the 1st 2 reasons why I will always be single are:

1.Courtship (for sex, relationship, and friendship above elementary school) fall in 1 direction.
2.Females are only interested in men that break the ice with them 1st and not interested in men that don't break the ice with them 1st.

That is.

1a.Courtship for sex falls in 1 direction.
1b.Courtship for relationship falls in 1 direction.
1c.Courtship for friendship above elementary school fall in direction.
2.Females are only interested in men that break the ice with them 1st and not interested in men that don't break the ice with them 1st.

So, those are the 1st 2 reasons, and what are the other 5? Send me $5, and I'll tell you. ;)

And if you are a guy, I'll tell you for free!










10/28/2009.

There are still several reasons why most of the time - I would not be the 1st to start an irrelevant non-important conversation with a female. Most of them usually revolve around the fact that most of then aren't single, and if they were, I would not just know that somehow. That I always assume a girl is not single than assume she is...

Here's a topic of discussion: if I ever be the 1st to say something to females, and they don't respond, does that affect how I may view females and be the 1st to talk to other females?

The answer is probably.

So I'd like to list all the reoccuring things where I talk to people and get no response.

1.It was the weight room of the P.E. complex at school. Outside the weight room was smell of smoke. Outside the P.E. complex they were burning logs.

This was with a group of guys, no girls at all. When a guy goes "Is that smoke I smell?" when they turn on the fan, they report and people investigate if the fan was burnt and releasing smoke.

And so I say to them "The smell is stronger outside."

Well they ignored, and continued on, but later some guy goes "Someone said the smell is stronger outside," and they test it, and so they conclude it was not the fan, and find out people were burning logs outside.

2.This 1, however, involves females.

On October 22, 2009.

On my /Chicago/Neal.html page, I explained how carrying band-aids around, I was able to give it to 2 girls so far. A ~5th grader girl that scraped her knee from playing soccer in the summer on the concrete (gave her 2 band-aids, May 31, 2009 ~7:30 p.m.) and another high school girl asking another girl on the C.T.A. bus for a band-aid and I was able to immediately hand it to her (October 19, 2009, 7:28 a.m.).

Well on October 22, 2009, and coming down the stairs from the 2nd floor P.E. complex at school, I saw 2 girls, 1 with her leg on the chair with her foot exposed and the other girl wrapping something around it. As I reach the bottom of the stairs I go "Need a band-aid?" They both give me this blank stare, and I just slow down... and then continue on and walk off.

And probably mutter something about me, like how weird it was, behind my back.

Sorry, girls aren't naturally social creatures.